Why Watching Porn With Your SO Will Improve Your Relationship
More and more people are admitting to watching porn, men and women, and when we’re in a relationship this doesn’t stop. However, we normally watch it behind our partners back, but why? Why not watch it together? It isn’t as disgusting or weird as you’d imagine.
I have listed some benefits of watching porn together below, and I honestly believe it does improve your relationship as it brings you closer together. You’re sharing a side of yourself that many others haven’t seen.
But be sure this is something both you and your partner are comfortable with beforehand. We want to increase your arousal, not get you freaked out.
If you’re both happy with watching porn together, then you can move on to the hard part; choosing which porn video to watch.
1. Increases Arousal
Fore play is sometimes overlooked in relationships. We want to get straight to the main event as we’ve done all that exploring each other’s bodies at the beginning of the relationship. But foreplay doesn’t have to be kissing and oral sex, foreplay can be laying next to each other and watching porn together.
Requires little effort really.
You can watch other people as you get turned on, and watch as your partner gets aroused as well.
You can turn it into a game, see who can resist touching each other or themselves for the longest. Let the tension build between the two of you as you both get desperate for something to happen.
Porn should be used to enhance your sex life, it shouldn’t take over it. Don’t watch so much that you can’t get aroused without it. You want to watch porn as a starter, an entree to the main meal. You should be getting distracted by each other before the video is done.
2. Learn What Each Other Likes
Ask your partner what porn he/she watches. It’ll be a great insight into what they fantasise about in the bedroom, and what their likes and dislikes are.
Perhaps they love role-play but have always found it too awkward to bring up to you that he would like you to dress as a police officer. Watching porn will give the most honest conversation you’ve ever had with your SO.
Women are more likely to reveal what they want from sex through watching porn as they can point out something in the video and casually say “that looks good”, or “that would be fun to try”. Rather than having to point it out during sex or in a normal conversation, which is awkward.
Porn gives insight into each others desires, pay attention. It’s almost like homework. But more fun!
3. Learn New Ideas
Here’s where you can spice up your sex-life. You can learn from the videos as you watch.
Most couples stick to missionary and cow-girl, occasionally doggy is thrown in. But porn can reveal new positions to try, ones you may never have thought off. Don’t get me wrong, we stick to those positions because they work, but you don’t know until you try the others if they work too.
If you’re willing to have a laugh while you are watching, you can try and copy while they’re on the screen. Most likely it’ll go wrong to begin with. or you may not be as flexible as the girl on the screen. But you never know, you may find something that works while you’re manoeuvring around, and then you have your own personal position.
It isn’t just sex positions you can pick up on, you can learn new tricks for oral sex as well. Just be careful that your partner will actually enjoy them, because porn is just a performance half the time. There isn’t always enjoyment in the moves, they just look good. So scraping your teeth may not be for them.
It’s just trial and error.
4. It Feels Naughty
If you’ve got bored with the same old routine of sex, then watching porn together will be something different. It’ll feel new, exciting… and naughty.
Obviously this benefit depends on what your kinks are, if you enjoy being naughty or not during sex. If you are a bit more frisky in your sex-life then this should be right up your street.
If you’re new to it then start slowly, ease yourself in. Make sure you’re comfortable every step of the way, because you want to be aroused, not turned off. This also requires you picking a good video, if you pick a video with one of those awful story lines you won’t be feeling naughty by the end of it. More in a jokey mood, and that isn’t the desired emotion for the situation.
As long as you go in with an open-mind, you’ll have fun.
5. Increases Closeness
You watch porn outside of the relationship, and most people watch it while in a relationship. When your partner finds out you’ve been watching porn behind their back, they normally feel hurt and not good enough for you sexually.
So rather than hiding it from them, watch it together. It’ll bring you closer together as you share an experience you haven’t with others. You’ll let them into your private life.
When you’ve shared your deepest desires with each other, you’ll be closer than you were before. So what’s the negative? I’m not seeing any.
Don’t Compare!
This is where most people trip up while watching porn, they think “why can’t I look like that”, but we need to remember these actors have been waxed and prepped to look the best they can for the aesthetic of porn.
Not all penis’ are going to be that big, and not every vagina is going to be trim. Once we’ve accepted this and moved past it, we can enjoy porn for what it is. A performance.
You have the real thing next to you, and chances are you’ll be having a better time than the couple on TV because you have a connection, and an attraction to each other.
It Doesn’t Have To Be Hardcore
Like I’ve said, as long as you’re comfortable with the experience then all is good. And perhaps you aren’t comfortable with watching hardcore porn that you find on the internet. Which is totally understandable, not everyone likes videos.
There are other options for you to try if you are open to it.
For example, there is soft porn. Watching Fifty Shades of Grey together counts, and can be very arousing as you see the occasional sex scene. Nothing ever too crude, but you have the build up, the story-line, the romance.
Or you could erotica together. This is a totally different experience but one that works just as well in arousing you because you are working with your imagination. Not everyone needs the screams of porn, you may prefer the silence as the tension builds between you and your partner as you flick the pages.
