College and our twenties are a period of our lives where we do a lot of soul-searching and figuring out who we are and who we want to be. One thing that can help is taking the Myers-Briggs type (or 16 Types) personality test to figure out just what it is you value and how you show it, based on whether or not you’re more (I)ntroverted or (E)xtroverted; (S)ensing or i(N)tuitive; (T)hinking or (F)eeling; (J)udging or (P)erceiving.
If you haven’t discovered your Myers-Briggs type yet, here’s a great free resource to do so. Then come right back and find out what your date should be!
It can be difficult enough to find a partner who meets all of your high standards, INTJ, without having to worry about keeping them there long enough to know if they’re your match! One challenge to you, INTJ is to try and relax on this date, instead of working too hard to make everything go perfectly, you’ll find that you and your partner enjoy yourselves much more when you’re relaxed and able to have a good time. Why not take them to see one of your favorite things, be it a museum or library or park, somewhere you can feel at home, and introduce them to another side of you?
Chances are, you thrive on your originality, INTP, and would hate to seem #Basic in any capacity. However, as boring as “Dinner and a Movie” might seem to you—as stale as flowers and chocolates on Valentine’s Day—check-in with your date, because chances are, they won’t always find these romantic traditions as boring as you do. That doesn’t mean you can’t place your own spin on them, INTP. Why not go to a Drive-In movie, or find a production of your date’s favorite play? Sometimes you really can’t beat the classics.
You love a challenge, ENTJ, but sometimes it’s a good idea to remember that you can’t actually “win” at dating. Of course, when dating, we all look towards the long-game (or endgame, if you will), but be careful that you’re not just ticking off boxes during your date to ensure you’ve found the perfect match. If you want to let some of that competitive attitude out in a fun way, ENTJ, why not take your date to an arcade? Not everything has to be a game of chess, sometimes it can be Pacman.
Dates are a perfect place to chat and get to know the other person, ENTP, but be careful you’re not playing the Devil’s Advocate too much over drinks and pizza. There’s a fine line between witty banter and hurting someone’s feelings, and it’s not always easy to tell just how fine a line it is until it’s too late. Make sure you’re listening as much as you’re questioning, ENTP, or why not find yourselves on the same team for game night or a local Pub Quiz? Dating should be a team sport, not Player Vs Player.
Private and introspective, it can be hard to find someone you’d be willing to let in and see the real you, INFJ, so congrats on getting this far. As someone who craves intimacy with your partner, you might want to find a space where you can have deep conversations or share something personal with your date. Getting to know someone in a low-pressure environment can help the conversation flow, especially when it’s something you love. Bookshops and cafes are a great space to share ideas and your favorite reads, so, as the meme goes, why not both?
One word you’ll often hear to describe you, INFP, is Idealistic or even *gasp*… Romantic. Ironically, it can be a challenge for you, INFP, to find love with all of your high expectations, and dating is no exception. Take a break from the soulmate search and enjoy the present with your date…why not try a concert? That rush of feeling that comes from live music enjoyed with another is sure to bring harmony to your relationship.
ENFJs are selfless and very relationship-focused, which can definitely up your dating game. Chances are, ENFJ, you’re in a relationship more than out of one, but serial dating doesn’t have to get boring. Why not go rollerskating or ice-skating with your date? It’s okay if you’re inexperienced, sometimes learning together is the best way to spice up a relationship. Things might get slippery, but don’t be too afraid of falling, ENFJ, or you’ll miss out on some of life’s best lessons.
If there’s another type that might be possibly more romantic than INFP’s it’s ENFP, and that’s because you’re all about grand gestures and displays of affection. It can be difficult for you, ENFP, to date someone who isn’t as obviously receptive to being romanced, however, that doesn’t mean you can’t communicate this with your partner to avoid any potential misunderstandings. If you’re dating a shyer partner, why not try coaxing them out of their shell at a cat cafe or bunny rescue? This way you can show affection to your date and let them see your soft side with your furry friends.
ISTJs can get a bad rap for being distant and seemingly unattached, but oftentimes, that’s not true. While you may not be the most physically or publicly affectionate, ISTJ, you feel love every bit as much as your other Myers-Briggs Type counterparts…it might just take you some time and thought to get all the way there. Why not try something out of the box to get the ball rolling with your date, ISTJ, and try an activity that will help conversation flow naturally…like bowling, perhaps?
Being shy and sensitive can make dating difficult, especially when you’d rather skip the interviewing process straight to the longterm familiarity and intimacy you can have with a potential partner. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t put in the work to get this date to where you want it to be, ISFJ…and have fun while you’re doing it. Why not go to a local street fair or boardwalk and take a stroll? Seeing arts and crafts, some fruit and maybe getting an ice cream cone or two will certainly sweeten the deal for both of you.
When it comes to dating, like most things in life, ESTJs generally know what they want. ESTJs have a habit of being a little set in their ways…being spontaneous doesn’t come easily to you, ESTJ, but we can all learn to be a little more flexible in our dating lives. Why not try something new, like frisbee golf, to stretch your romantic and creative muscles as well as your physical ones. Loosening up and welcoming new hobbies is always attractive to any partner.
ESFJs take #relationshipgoals very seriously: you’re not looking for the short term, and really, that’s okay. It’s not always easy, having such lofty goals, but as long as you’re aware that they are something to aim for, you can’t go wrong. It’s like that quote by Norman Vincent Peele: “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” Speaking of stars, why not go to an observatory or find a place to stargaze? There’s nothing quite as romantic as seeing the whole universe blanketed above you.
There’s nothing like that excitement that comes with getting to know another person, all of their quirks and habits, you know, all the fun parts about falling in love with someone new. You just want to live in the moment, and you want your partner to be down for that too. Why not take a spontaneous trip outdoors with your date, old or new, and explore nature? Take a picnic and some hiking shoes and make this date all about discovering something together.
As someone who doesn’t like to take the spotlight, ISFPs would rather put the focus on their partner and let them shine, which can sometimes look like letting your date speak instead of opening up yourself. Why not have a night in, and make a favorite dish for the two of you? Don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be Master Chef worthy, they’ll be sure to appreciate something that came from the heart. And if it doesn’t go well…well, that’ll always be a story to laugh about later over UberEats.
Adventurous and down for just about anything, ESTPs want their dating life to be the same way. Whether you met your current partner on a blind date or doing something Totally crazy (“really, you had to be there-”), you want to keep up that adrenaline-fueled energy rushing through your veins the whole way through. Why not take that thrill-seeking habit of yours to a theme park, and bring your date on some of the wildest coasters you both can handle? It’s one way to make sure you get your kicks, and maybe even a good excuse to hold their hand a little too.
Life is always a blast with you, ESFP, that’s one thing we can count on, even if we can’t count on you being the best planner…but hey, it’s good to know your weaknesses. Finding a new crush is always a thrill (even if you have a tendency to like to keep your options open, too). As an ESFP, chances are that part of your strengths when it comes to dating is entertaining your partner (and even their friends), so why not share your love of performing with your them and go try karaoke? Singing your favorite jams at the top of your lungs (no matter how badly) is one of life’s simple pleasures, and you might even spark a little love with a ballad or two.
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