Tinder is arguably one of the most, if not THE most, popular dating apps trending right now. But there is just one little problem… People don’t know how to make the first move when it comes to striking up a conversation with someone they have just matched with. I must admit that I have tried Tinder myself and there is nothing worse than staring at stranger’s profile and trying to imagine what to say to them. It is ironic really as you spend so long swiping to find someone but then when you do have a match, you are too scared to actually speak to them, even if it is only from behind the safety of a screen. So as to combat this, below is a list of 10 potential ways to start a conversation on Tinder with someone:
Sure this might seem like the most obvious and boring conversation starter but nobody wants to read your life story right away. Ease into the conversation nice and gently and a conversation starter like this will also buy you more time to think of what to say next!
From previous experience, it’s nice to know that your match has actually read your bio and studied your profile carefully rather than swiping based purely on physical attraction (which let’s be real, most of us actually do). Maybe ask your match to elaborate on a certain sentence in their bio, or pay them a compliment about an item of clothing they are wearing in one of their photos.
Sometimes a picture can speak a thousand words. Why not start with a GIF instead of an actual sentence and see how long you and your match can keep the conversation going with pictures rather than actual words. This will show off your humourous side and will make you stand out from other matches (because let’s be real, you are more than likely competing with multiple matches). This is definitely one of the most light-hearted ways to start a conversation on tinder!
Too often I matched with men (quite frankly they had the maturity of little boys) whose egos were so big I could practically feel them through the phone. By starting a conversation with an embarrassing story, preferably one about dating, this will show that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you have a human side. It will also help to break the ice- especially if your match finds it funny too, as laughter is a key trait both men and women look for in potential partners.
If you don’t know what to say, then just tell the truth. Start a conversation on Tinder with something like: ‘I don’t have a clue where to start so I hope you have a better idea than me!’. More than likely your match will be feeling just as nervous and awkward as you and this will help them breathe a sigh of relief and hopefully open the floodgates for a proper conversation.
Some can be cheesy but others work. The key is to find the balance and then strike right away. My personal favourite is: ‘Titanic. Sorry that was a bad icebreaker. How are you?’. If the joke doesn’t go down well, then make another joke like: ‘well as you can tell I am awful at jokes’, and then just let the conversation run along a more natural path. This is definitely one of the best ways to start a conversation on tinder!
The worst thing about matching with someone on Tinder is when they only talk about themselves. About their work, their house, their pets, their interests. The key to Tinder, especially in the early stages, is to get to know each other. Show you are interested and curious by asking your match questions. What is one thing they aim to accomplish in life? What gets them out of bed in the morning?
Small talk can be boring. Nothing is better than face to face conversation. Be brave, why not ask them on a date right away? It doesn’t have to be done in an eager or desperate way. Keep it cool, a casual: “fancy going for a drink for a chat instead of talking through a phone?”, is enough.
Open a conversation on Tinder with a scenario, get their brain buzzing. Move beyond the physical attraction of their profile and stimulate their mind. Something like: “You were just given the opportunity of a lifetime: to pack a bag and leave tonight for a trip to anywhere of your choosing. Where do you go?”. Then sit back and await their response! This is definitely one of the greatest ways to start a conversation on tinder!
It is obvious when someone is trying too hard or pretending to be someone that they are not. Regardless of the fact you are talking to a stranger, they will be able to see through you plainly enough. If humour is your go to, or if you consider yourself a charmer, then use your strengths. Pay your match a compliment, because who can resist a compliment right?
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