Breaking up is never easy. But realising that you and your partner’s relationship is coming to an end is even harder, especially if the relationship has been long and committed. Here are some signs that it is finally time to start moving on.
The excitement, the electricity that first brought you together has disappeared. You might notice it because they aren’t as excited to spend time with you anymore. Or because they don’t spend as much time being as romantic.
Do you spend a lot of time worrying about your relationship? Do you feel upset when you think about where you and your partner are at? These could be signs that you are no longer happy in your relationship and it could be affecting your life as a whole.
Do you and your partner still have sex? Are you still playful and sexy in the bedroom? If it’s been a while since you’ve felt sexy or since your partner has wanted to have sex with you then it could be a warning sign that they aren’t as sexual attracted to you as they used to be.
Are there things happening that you wish your partner could be there for but isn’t? Do they make excuses or make plans that don’t always involve you when they could? These are signs that they aren’t thinking about you when making plans, that you aren’t in their mind when stuff is happening.
Are you more negative towards them than you are positive? Do you complain about them to your friends more than you have nice things to say? An issue could be that you no longer respect your partner, this is a real issue because you need to be able to respect each other in order to grow as a couple. If that’s the case, it’s time to start moving on.
Can you see a future with your partner? If you can’t it isn’t always the end of the world but could mean that you start to focus on the here and now and hope that the relationship lasts. If you know there isn’t a future, you might start to self-sabotage in the hope of making the relationship shorter or longer.
Is your partner always on their phone, or emotionally unavailable to you? Do you need more emotional support than you are receiving from your partner? If this is the case then they could be having an emotional affair where you feelings are being cheated on. If this is happening, you need to talk to them and figure it out.
Perhaps if you and your partner are living too different lives it is becoming too hard for you. Maybe you have different job times or live in different cities. Making time for each other is of dire importance and you should always be a priority.
Is your partner exhibiting controlling behaviour? Perhaps they are manipulating you rather than just speaking to you straight. In situations like these you need to tell them honestly how they are making you feel. If they don’t understand what is wrong, it could be the best reason to leave. You don’t want to be controlled. It’s better to start moving on.
Do you and your partner argue a lot? Do you talk rationally about your problems? If you aren’t able to talk about your problems without fighting, then it shows a lack of communication in your relationship and could be a major issue in having a future. You need to find a way of communicating correctly that helps both you and your partner to be happy.
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