Whether you’re male or female, the thought of having sex with someone new probably sounds like the most daunting thing ever. After breaking up with someone and you’re ready to move on comes a million questions that probably put us off from making the move to move on. But having sex with someone new doesn’t have to be weird and here is why.
The first step is to love yourself. By appreciating yourself for the way you are is the recipe to that much-needed confidence boost. You shouldn’t have to go to great lengths to make yourself different to be appreciated by a new partner. Maybe there’s a certain makeup that you enjoy wearing or that certain piece of clothing that makes you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin. Before getting with someone new, it’s always important to recognize that you feel comfortable with moving on to someone else after that horrible breakup. The first step is acknowledging that you are comfortable and ready.
There’s a saying that goes along the lines of “you don’t know if you don’t try”. Maybe the sex with your last partner was great and was intimate. You may discover something different by having sex with someone new. Everybody has unique experience in the bedroom department and it’s best to think positively about having sex with a new partner. It may turn out to be better than you might expect, and you may end up enhancing your sex life and learn new things about yourself and your partner.
Having a mature approach to sex will greatly help you in feeling comfortable having sex with somebody new. Discussing birth control and history with previous partners will help you gain confidence, by getting to know your new partner and their experiences with sex. Discussing what’s good and bad about the sex will also help you and your partner maximise each other’s experiences by finding out what you both enjoy and don’t enjoy.
At the end of the day, it will always be your choice with you want to continue having sex with a new partner. If it isn’t what you thought it was cracked up to be then don’t stress. Sex is about intimacy and is part of your journey in self-discovery. We’re bound to have good and bad times with sex, so it’s best not overthink it. Just be yourself and when the right time comes, it will come.
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