It’s hard out there constantly hearing ‘oh there’s plenty more fish in the sea’ whilst you’re catching an empty line every time. Even if you do manage to pull in a couple of trouts, they’re not that premium fillet that you want or deserve, so you turn, like we all do, to dating apps. We all say its just for fun to your friends but secretly hoping you’ll run into prince/princess charming? Sound familiar? Well, your Charming is probably in just about the same boat as your, desperately swiping away- here’s some tips on how to find your soulmate!
I’m not saying lower your standards, I’m saying give people who don’t tick every single box perfectly a chance. Maybe you’re right and it doesn’t work out, but maybe it does. Give it a go, if the type you’ve been going for hasn’t been working out maybe that’s for a reason- try something else and see if you get any success.
Once you decide maybe you do fancy someone, don’t stop swiping, that’s a sure fire way to heartbreak. Swipe right, and then carry on swiping. See what happens, get chatting if you match, but there’s no need to stop swiping one day in to a crush. Once you’ve decided to be exclusive, THEN you stop swiping. This is really important when it comes to how to find your soulmate!
Even if, god forbid, you get to the end of people to swipe on, if no one caught your eye then no one caught your eye, that’s okay! Your soulmate might not be living in your home town, they might not even be on tinder yet! Power through, don’t get too obsessed- live your life with open hearts and eyes on the lookout but don’t let it become your only priority. Your soulmates probably not hoping you’re sitting around doing nothing pining for them- they want you to be living your own badass life having your own fun and being open to meet them when the time is right for you both.
Its easy to get stuck in a cycle of endless cycle of swipe left, swipe left, swipe left, swipe right, un match. What does that achieve for you! Go on dates, meet new people, and have some fun! That’s what life’s about!
Yes, we’re all looking for love, but just because you meet someone and you don’t get that immediate spark of true love doesn’t mean its worth nothing. Yes, don’t lead people on, but give yourself a chance to have a good date, even if it’s the only time you ever see them, and try to have fun.
If their bio is an absolute turn off or even if you just get off vibes- trust your gut. You don’t need to push things that just don’t feel right just to be open. This is super important when it comes to how to find your soulmate!
You can be doing all the right things and still not be finding the fish for you. It’s okay if its super important to you to find a partner, but that can’t be your entire life. We’re sold this idea that finding The One should be your priority- but it really doesn’t have to be! Take it one day at a time, stay open to opportunities coming your way but find your joy in other places. When the right person comes along you’ll know but until then- its okay to just have fun, in short term relationships, with friends, in hobbies, in passions, by yourself. Find what works for you so that you can build your support system outside of a relationship (and alongside one if it comes along, its still important!) and find your joy from more than one place.
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