Why An Age Difference In Relationships Isn’t THAT Big Of A Deal

Here are some reasons why an age difference in relationships is really not that big of a deal! You can't help who you fall for!

As clichéd as it sounds, age is just a number right? Well, this doesn’t stop some people turning their noses up at romantic relationships where there is an age difference. Sure there are benefits of being in a relationship with someone the same age as you: you are both at the same stage of your lives so you can both understand what the other person is going through; you can also grow and evolve together. However, speaking from personal experience, an age difference in relationships can actually be better and it really isn’t THAT big of a deal. The list below will prove why (for the benefit of this article, I am going to refer to an age difference as one partner being a lot older or a lot younger than the other rather than there being only a few years’ difference).

1. Level of maturity.

Ever felt like you have outgrown your friends? That they are too immature and are not ready to commit to having more responsibility in their life like you are? Well an age difference in a relationship isn’t that big of a deal in this instance. If you are very mature and are with an older partner, this means you can connect with them on a deeper level and be stimulated by their conversations and life experiences. Likewise, if you are still young at heart and full to the brim with energy, then a younger partner would be more compatible for you – someone with similar interests to you and who wants to do the same activities.

2. You can’t help who you fall for.

Again another cliché but it is true. Your feelings are not operated by a light switch. They cannot be turned off just like that. Love is something precious and not everyone gets to experience it. So if you do fall in love with someone and they happen to be younger or older than you then it really isn’t that big of a deal. All that matters is that you and your partner know that what you have is special and that you are both committed to making it last. This is one of the most important things to remember as to why an age difference in relationships don’t matter!

3. The sex will be great.

There is no denying it, sex is an important part of any relationship. An age difference really isn’t that big of a deal in a relationship, especially when it comes to the physical side of a relationship. If your partner is older than you then they will be more experienced and know how to please you in the bedroom. It is also more likely that the sex will be more intense, romantic and meaningful compared to younger immature relationships where lust can take over. On the other hand, if your partner is younger than you, they will have more energy and keep you on your toes- they will be able to last longer and the sex will more likely be more exciting.

4. Equality is more important than age.

A relationship is a partnership made up of two different halves: you and your partner. Therefore, an age difference really isn’t that big of a deal as long as both partners in a relationship are equal. It is important for one partner to avoid mothering the other (typically the older partner), or for one partner to be too dependent on the other (typically the younger one). For this can lead to a power imbalance which is very unhealthy. However, as long as each partner looks on the other as their equal, then age really isn’t that big of a deal.

5. You need to have the same values and life goals.

Age really isn’t that big of a deal in a relationship compared to other factors. What is really important is that you both see the future of your relationship heading in the right direction. Communication is key to ensuring age-gap relationships work. Be honest about how you feel about settling down, living together, having children etc. If you agree on factors such as these, then at the end of the day, an age difference in relationships shouldn’t matter.

To conclude, those couples with an age difference in their relationship will always attract more attention than those couples of the same, or similar ages. But block out the haters and listen to your heart, if you are happy then it really isn’t anybody else’s business.