“You will get an STD and die“. When you’re 16, you most likely learn about sex from watching movies (like Mean Girls) or reading articles with crazy sex positions that seem almost impossible for a person to get into. The sex ed classes never actually teach us about the important parts of having sex and we avoid having painful talks with adults who are actually having sex. For those of us who learned on our own, or those who are looking for guidance, these are the 20 things we all wish we were taught about sex in high school.
From what we see in movies and on tv, it seems like the first time will be this magical, fireworks kind of moment. It is exciting, but there may be a lot of awkward moments which are completely normal. No one is ever perfect at something the first time and if you remember that it will make it a lot better!
Just because you have amazing sex with one person or on one occasion, doesn’t mean it will be the same exact way the next time. Don’t overthink your experience. Instead, go in open minded and ready to have fun.
In high school, virginity tends to be taught as something powerful that women should not lose. Young women are usually slut shamed for losing their virginity, which shouldn’t be a thing at all. Virginity is simply just a word used to prevent young women from having sex and it is made out to be a lot more than it is. No one should be ashamed to be sexual if that is their choice!
A female condom? How? It actually goes internally in the vagina and looks like two rings with a bag attached. It is non-latex, so it is perfect for people with latex allergies! Because it goes inside the vagina, some women find it more pleasurable than male condoms.
Just like putting the condom over the banana in tv shows and movies right? Well, other than seeing that, most of us will not come into contact with a condom until the first time we have sex; what good does that do when you have no idea what to do?
There are a lot of bodily fluids being passed between you and your partner and chances are, things are going to get a little messy. That is completely normal and a pretty good sign.
This is one of the biggest lessons that should be taught in high school. Women and men are not taught about the female anatomy, which doesn’t help when having sex.
It takes a lot more work to make women orgasm than it does for men, which is so important to know when having sex. It isn’t fair if you aren’t getting an equal opportunity for an orgasm as your partner, so being aware of that can make things a lot more pleasurable for the both of you!
As simple as it sounds, we are taught in high school that being sexual is something we should not do for a bunch of reasons. Once you experience it, you learn that sex is something that is meant to feel good and that you can have fun doing.
Oh, masturbating. In high school, masturbation is a taboo subject and bringing pleasure to yourself is a no, no; which is some serious bs. Masturbating is an amazing way to learn about your body and what makes you feel good.
Foreplay is really important for having great sex. It is the best way to get each other warmed up and makes things really intimate.
Sex isn’t all about penis-vagina penetration. There is oral, fingering, hand jobs, and so on. If you and your partner are the same sex, that opens the doors for even more types of sex that you can have.
Don’t be ashamed if you need lube to get things going in sex. It is a totally common and normal thing to use lube.
Your favorite rom-com, steamy sex scene on tv, or the porn you secretly watch, are all the opposite of reality. Do not use these as an example of how you go into your experience or what your expectations are. You will be disappointed.
Just like anything in life, sex takes practice. It is a learning experience and will only getting better the more you do it.
Sex is different for each and every person. Some people are ready at a young age, some wait until a lot later in life, and some wait until they find the right person. No matter what, the choice is yours and you should never feel pressure!
STDs and STIs should not be taken lightly because they are so easy to contract. But, there is a slim chance that you will die as long as you are keeping yourself protected. Always get yourself checked regularly if you are sexually active and don’t be afraid to ask your partner if they’ve been tested!
You should be giving just as much as you are taking. When you start taking too much or not giving enough, things can get frustrating or even boring for both of you.
Save yourself from the dreaded UTI or Yeast infection because these can turn into more serious conditions if they go untreated. And UTIs really suck.
We talk about consent in high school, but not about consent in a relationship. So often, couples in relationships are taken advantage of because they feel like they no longer need that consent. Always speak up if you aren’t into it and ask if your partner is!
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