DMs 101: The Proper Way To Slide In Someone’s DMs

From the DMs to the altar: a love story. In today’s day and age, that is a phenomenon that’s far more common than you may know.

Whether you like it or not, life is no longer about seizing the moment when it comes to approaching that one special person you dreamt about last night. Seeing them once and never crossing paths again isn’t much of reality anymore. In fact, with today’s technology, that person is more than likely accessible at any time of the day with the help of a simple little direct message, or DM.

You, of course, wouldn’t want to slide in someone’s DMs at just any time, though. There are certain ethics to adopt and etiquette to have when DM diving, and we’re here to help with that! I mean, just think about it. You wouldn’t want to shoot your shot from half court, right?

Generally speaking, you want to your crush to know of your existence before you profess your love for them, so this should always be your very first and most fundamental step when you slide in someone’s DMs. No one is ever intrigued by a complete stranger liking pictures from 286 weeks ago, let alone a random DM. This step may seem extra or unnecessary, but do yourself the favor of taking two seconds and covering all your bases before jumping in the field. You won’t regret it.

Once you’ve been followed and have the green light, I guess you could go ahead and send a DM. But typically you’d want to wait it out a bit, and there’s a number of reasons why.

For one, it gives them a chance to get a feel for your personality and who you are. With time, they’ll get the opportunity to see your interests, thoughts of current events and how you interact with friends.

Secondly, it allows you to interact with them directly before getting to know them privately. As time goes on, respond or comment on a few posts of theirs on the timeline. Establish a genuine social media friendship, so that when you do slide in their DMs, it’ll seem natural.

It’s showtime. It’s finally your moment. When you’re at this point and are about to slide in someone’s DMs, you want to actually think about what you want to say and what your approach will be. The absolute last thing you want to do is come off as too abrasive and leave them feeling uncomfortable.

The number of options you have here are essentially endless. It all depends on what you’re comfortable with and what speaks most to your personality. The mint and pick-up line heading was merely a joke, but in all reality, that actually has a chance at working when used properly by a more savvy DM diver. If that’s you, go for it!

If not, there’s also a bunch of subtle approaches as well. As previously stated, you can always reply to someone they’ve posted, or send them a post that reminds you of them if you’ve already established some type of friendship. Just be creative and make sure it’s meaningful! A simple “hey sexy” with heart eyes will result in an extremely low shooting percentage.

When you slide in someone’s DMs, the number one thing NOT to do is creep them out. Similar to the earlier points, you should avoid going on a liking spree and dropping a million fire emoji’s under their last ten posts to get their attention. Avoid giving them your entire life story upon your first time speaking. And definitely avoid sending a picture of your… you know. Area. It has happened before so I had to say it.

With this short list of intangibles, your shot percentage should increase dramatically when you slide in someone’s DMs. It’s not rocket science, but you also can’t just wing it without thought and expect great results. First impressions are everything so represent yourself in the best light possible!