Looking for that casual, no-strings attached relationship? The kind that involves sex and the dip-in, dip-out approach; like a “hi” and “bye” hookup that occurs multiple times. They call that being a friend with benefits. If that’s what you’re into, then having a friend with benefits is your cup of tea. However, this hookup situation can often get tricky if not handled properly. In fact, it usually ends in disaster. As they say, sex complicates things. Regardless, if you want to give it a go, you probably should establish these rules of being a friend with benefits before getting with the girl.
Having a friend with benefits is awesome in theory but you know how it ends; tragically. Usually it starts off all fun and games but someone ends up catching feels. Here are some rules of being a friend with benefits who breaks a girl’s heart.
You might want to establish this rule early on. However, it does remind me of A Walk To Remember when the dude is given fair warning not to fall in love with her and does anyways. Oh well, don’t say you weren’t warned. Let it be known if you are going to be a friend with benefits to some girl, that you won’t be exclusive or taking her on dates. Keep the boundaries crystal clear. It’s understandable if you start catching feelings or vice versa. However, if you find yourself at that point, address it ASAP; the longer you wait the messier the situation gets. May as well have gotten the most common rule out of the way.
Don’t lead a poor girl on. The only text message you should be sending as a friend with benefits is to arrange a time to fuck. Let this be known early on as well. Friends with benefits have strict guidelines. If they are crossed it leaves room for confusion, disappointment and feelings. The whole point of it is to keep your emotions out of the equation.
If you are a friend with benefits, don’t take her out on dates; buy her flowers or anything for that matter. Don’t grab a cup of coffee together the next morning or allow her to stay in the morning while you are out and about. If you are going to be a friend with benefits you don’t have to be an asshole but keep in mind the nicer you are, the higher the chances she catches feels.
Keep that friend with benefits thing on lock down. That means no introducing her to your friends; especially not family. This is a big no-no. If you introduce her to people who are in your life, that opens the door to personal and intimate conversations. Save yourself the drama and keep it between the sheets.
If you are a friend with benefits, let it be known that this isn’t an exclusive gig. It’s a casual hookup. Basically, let it be known that you are both booty calls to one another and that dating other people is an option. This should be crystal clear to the girl.
If you are a friend with benefits, cuddling is off limits. Save it for the girl you actually want to be in a relationship. Cuddling is intimate and gives off the wrong impression. You have no obligation to a friend with benefits.
You can’t become actual friends if you want to have a friend with benefits relationship. Again, keep it casual. If you become actual friends, chances are you’ll be catching feelings. Warned you!
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