I Was In A One-Sided Relationship And Here’s What Happened
I’ve read a couple articles on signs you’re in a one-sided relationship. Elite Daily’s article talks about eight signs, whereas Entity Magazine’s article talks about five. The signs range from lack of communication to feeling stressed out. All the signs are true. Let’s just cut to the chase: being in a one-sided relationship sucks. I read all the signs and realized I was in one. I never related more to an article in my entire life.
Communication Is Key
When it came to communication, I would always initiate it. I always called first. I always texted first. He told me it was because he wasn’t really a phone person and was like this with everyone. I took his excuse and ran with it. But what I failed to realize was, if someone wants your attention, they would show it. I was so confused because when I would go to his house he would tell me he appreciated me coming over. If you appreciated it, why didn’t you ask me to come over in the first place?
You’re Not A Bother Whatsoever
I would always feel stressed. I’d feel like I was bothering him with any problems I had. I didn’t want to dump my problems on him. I didn’t want him to think I was negative. I didn’t want to ruin what I thought was a good thing. I didn’t want to fight because when we did I thought it would be the last time I ever spoke to him. But that’s a problem for another time.
Don’t Ever Beg Someone To Care
As the relationship deepened, at times I felt that he didn’t care. And if you feel like your partner doesn’t care, chances are they don’t. It’s hard to accept but there’s no other way around it. If someone cares for you, they will never stop letting you know how they feel about you. Some people like to link reassurance with insecurity, but it isn’t really the case. People change all the time, and so do their feelings. How should I know how you feel about me tomorrow or the next day?
They Will Not Magically Change In The Morning
We were on and off for quite sometime. I stayed in hopes he would change. He didn’t. Well, I take that back, he did change, but for the worse.He would verbally say “I don’t care about you.” He would gaslight me and tell me I’m acting crazy for valid logical things. He would raise his voice at me, in public, I’d get upset, and he would get mad at me and say I’m annoying and then I’d end up apologizing when I didn’t do anything wrong in the first place. I hoped he would change how he treated me. I wanted him to reciprocate the effort, time, and energy I put into the relationship. I wanted him to just treat me better, and I remained hopeful when he verbally told me he realized I treat him way better than he treated me. I wanted him to give me the love I gave him. Besides all that, why did I stay in this toxic one-sided relationship you ask? Well, that’s a story for another time.
Let It Go
In a 50/50 relationship, it is both your job to make sure your partner knows they cared for and loved as long as you are together. If one of you puts more effort into that, well then, you’re in a one-sided relationship and it’s time to move on.
