How to Talk About Sex with Your Partner

Humans are sexual creatures, but not everyone is on the same page when it comes to sex. Here are some tips on how to bring up sex (and anything related) with your partner to make the awkwardness of the conversation, well, a bit less awkward.

Trust them

Just like with anything in a relationship, bringing up sex requires trust. Whether it’s a concern, preference, or complaint; you have to trust your partner in order to tell them anything of importance. Not only that, but if you trust your partner, than you can rest assured that they won’t judge you after you tell them.

Don’t put it off

If you’re really nervous to have this sex talk, it’s understandable that you would want to keep putting it off until the timing is right. Don’t do this. Your partner is with you for a reason, and it’s because you’re a great person. Being nervous is okay, procrastinating is not.

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Make sure they’re in a decent mood

You don’t want to come to your s/o when they’re grumpy and try to have a serious conversation! Try to wait until they’re in a good mood, or even better, when they’re in a super good mood, since people are more likely to listen at these times.

Be honest

Say what’s on your mind, answer any questions they may have, and remember to be kind, but serious. Prepare yourself for any reaction they might give you. For example, if you’re going to tell them, “Hey, I’m not so crazy about that thing you do… Yeah, that,” understand that they may be a little upset. Sex can be a touchy subject.

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Say something nice

This is optional, but if you’re critiquing their sex skills, than you should probably finish off by saying something positive. I used to have a teacher that called this “The Sh*t Sandwich,” meaning that you start off good, fill in all the bad stuff in the middle, and end on a good note.

Breathe a sigh of relief

Congratulations, you got through it! Time to relax and breathe easy knowing that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to sex!

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Dallas Gajovski

Dallas is a 19 year-old Liberal Arts and Humanities major at Cuyahoga Community College, in Ohio. When she isn't writing she's reading, painting, or insisting that "punk's not dead". When she grows up she hopes to move to Portland, Oregon with her cat, and is unsure of what career she wants to do for the rest of her life. Hopefully you'll enjoy joining her on this journey of self-discovery and bad jokes.