He’s Just Not That Into You If He Does This For Valentine’s Day
Even on Valentine’s Day, your guy should always make you feel like the most special girl in the world. I’m not saying he should bring you flowers every single day or buy you dinner way out of his budget. And if his actions feel forced or half-assed, then it doesn’t make for a good partnership in the long run. Here are just some of the red flags to look for if he’s just not that into you on Valentine’s Day.
1. The Relationship is More Physical than Emotional
Yes, getting intimate can be an important factor in a relationship. It allows two people to give their bodies, heart, and soul to one another. But if it’s all he wants to do, that’s not at all a good reason to keep him around. Unless this has been communicated about earlier, and pardon my French, not everyone needs a fuck buddy.
2. He Has to Work Hard to Make Time for You
This is probably one of the biggest red flags, if not the biggest. If him simply making time for you feels forced and unnatural, or you’re always the one doing the initiating, then it’s really a bigger waste of your time than his.
3. He Leaves You Wondering
if he really was into you, he would let you know one way or the other. If he’s hardly communicating (if not at all), that’s like leaving you hanging on a string.
4. He’s Open About Other Women
Whether it’s his “friend” or someone he meets at a party, that’s not just a way to drop him. It’s a way of saying “Boy, bye!”
5. He Doesn’t Put You First
Especially on Valentine’s Day, if he would rather look at his phone or play his dumb video games, then you’re obviously not his top priority. Again, “Boy, bye!”
6. He Barely Looks at You
It’s even scientifically proven that if he is into you, he would not be able to keep his eyes off of you. Again, look at the amount of time his eyes are spent on his screens or in a totally opposite part of the room.
7. He Doesn’t Do Anything Nice for You
It doesn’t have to be a huge ordeal or anything. Even a cute text message or something is a nice enough Valentine’s Day gesture.
8. He Doesn’t Care If You’re in A Crisis
Men really are natural providers. It’s not like he has to always kneel to your every whim or anything. Just his reassurance that he’s there and it’s going to be okay is enough.
9. He’s Never Opened Up Emotionally
Part of a strong bond with someone is being vulnerable with one another. Valentine’s Day is a perfect opportunity to do so.
10. He’s Indifferent Towards You
If you’re his one and only, then he would not treat you the way he treats everyone else. I’m not saying he needs to totally go out of his way. But, definitely keep an eye out if you start to notice him calling you “man” or “dude” like he does his friends.
11. He would rather hang out with his friends rather than yours.
Again, kind of putting himself first here, and on Valentine’s Day no less. He’s not even willing to get out of his comfort zone if the time you do spend is around his crowd.
12. You haven’t even met any of his friends
Or vice versa. That’s a key thing, he should be wanting to show you off, because there’s something important in his life. If he’s leaving you out of his world, then he’s really not into you. You should be his world.
13. He’s Constantly Criticizing You
kind of focusing on the negatives of you, which is kind of demeaning behavior. Besides, you don’t need someone so insecure he has to put others down.
14. He’s Not Being Honest
Besides communication, this is one of the key things to a healthy, long-lasting relationship.
15. He Flirts with Everyone
If he’s not that into you, he wouldn’t do this to make you jealous. It’s really because he doesn’t care.
16. Your Messages Are Being Straight Up Ignored
If he’s only responding to your texts or calls three days later as if he hadn’t been distant at all, that’s just straight-up disrespectful, in my opinion. It’s making excuses, which is a whole different red flag by itself.
17. He Cancels Plans At The Last Minute
It’s one thing if it’s every once in a while, or in a dire emergency. But if he’s claiming he’s “busy” every time, even before you set the Valentines’s Day date, then he is not worth your time.
18. He only wants to talk late at night
I got two words for you: Booty. Call. I mean, seriously. No one with a committed mind makes time when you’re lying in bed and he has that thing on his mind. And you know what that thing is.
19. He Doesn’t Get Jealous
If a man was really interested in his woman, he would worry even just a little bit about her relationships with other men. He would really pay attention to even the mention of someone who could possibly be competition for your attention. Any guy would want to win that competition. because you know darn well how amazing you are.
20. He wants to take things slow, maybe even too slow
Most of the time, this really is just an excuse to keep you on his leash. Claims such as “Let’s just see where this goes,” or “I want to work on our friendship first,” or “I’m still healing from my last breakup three years ago” are just polite ways of saying “I want to keep my options open and you’re most likely not going to be one of them.” And, chances are, he could be telling these same things to many other women.
21. He Doesn’t Listen to You
There is a huge difference between him hearing you and him listening to you. If he’s actually listening to you, then he should be willing to do what it takes to make you happy, especially on Valentine’s Day. Whatever you say to him wouldn’t enter one ear and completely dissolve from the other.
