10 BDSM Inspired Toys To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Is sex with your SO a little too vanilla? Maybe you’ve gotten into a routine and are a little too comfortable with each other to try something new. If that’s the case, some of these BDSM inspired toys may have the potential to spice up your sex life and give you something to get excited about.
1. Collar and leash
Pro tip: if the collar’s cute and casual enough, it can totally double as a choker and go with any outfit. But regarding sex, a collar and leash are a good place to start if you’re into submission and want to try something new. If you’re into the hardcore stuff, have your SO walk you around the room with it to set the tone for some dominating sex. If that’s a little too much for you, you can totally just wear it while you’re having sex, and he can use it to pull himself deeper into you (assuming your partner is male).
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2. Paddle
But honestly, who doesn’t like to be spanked? Switch out a hand for a playful paddle and you’re good to go. Less intense than a belt and a little more interesting than skin to skin contact, a paddle can easily make things more exciting in the bedroom. They also come in a variety of materials for varying degrees of intensity, so you can decide how hard you’re willing to go.
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3. Handcuffs
Pretty basic BDSM, but handcuffs can add some spice to your sex life if you’re not willing to engage in some of the heavier stuff. Handcuff your SO and have your way with them, or get handcuffed and submit to your partner. There are plenty of sexy roleplays that can go along with this, too. It can also be fun to pick out a pair with your partner. Most sex shops offer a variety; anything ranging from fuzzy pink ones to classic silver police-inspired heavy duty ones.
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4. Ballgag
If you’re feeling extra submissive, strap on a ballgag and start playing. If you’re down to do this, however, it’s always a good idea to discuss a safe signal with your partner beforehand, as you won’t be able to speak while you’re engaging in activity. While not being able to effectively communicate verbally might be an issue for some, it might be exciting for others. Whatever floats your boat.
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5. Nipple clamps
Reactions to this one may range from ouch to oooh. Surprisingly, nipple clamps can feel pretty good, whether your nipples are easily stimulated or not. It also depends on how hard the clamps hold onto them, and if your partner plays with them (twists or pulls them). They can also give your SO a pretty good view during sex and can be a huge turn on if you’re into being submissive.
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6. Blindfold
If you want to add a secretive element to your sex life, try on a blindfold and let your partner have their way with you (with your consent, obviously). Or if you want to take control, blindfold them and do your thing. Either way, not having your vision can make things feel 10x more intense, as you’re able to fully focus on your body and the sensations you’re having. You can use it in conjunction with other BDSM inspired toys, or on its own; it’ll be equally enjoyable either way.
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7. Rope/restraints
If you’re into being restrained, it might be fun to have your partner tie you up. Or you can buy more formal restraints and get strapped to the bed; whichever you prefer. Rope is a little more old school and might be harder to use if your SO doesn’t know any good knots or how to properly tie someone up (which might be a good thing). But there are plenty of tutorials online for those of you just getting into BDSM and not very experienced with BDSM inspired toys.
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8. Dildo
Pretty classic, and maybe not the most BDSM sex toy, but a dildo will definitely make things more interesting in the bedroom. There’s something about someone using an objective device on you rather than doing the deed themselves; maybe it’s the element of control. There are a variety of dildos to choose from both online and in stores, and they come in so many different sizes, shapes, and colors, it might be a fun bonding experience to pick one out with your SO.
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9. Riding crop
If you’re into being spanked and a paddle is a little too heavy duty, give a riding crop a go. Have your partner give you subtle slaps; you’re bound to get a little excited.
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10. Butt plug
A butt plug is a good place to start if you’re interested in trying BDSM inspired toys and anal stimulation but not down to commit to anal. Butt plugs come in a variety of sizes, so you’ll be able to choose how big you want to go to. You can wear it when you’re having sex, or use it as foreplay.
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