15 Tips To Have The Best Phone Sex Experience Ever

Phone sex is a bit of a go-to for many around the world right now. With the world being quarantined, not all of us have a live-in significant other that we can have sex with whenever we want. Some have to get creative and find new ways!

Choose A Quiet Calm Place For Yourself

You don’t want to try to do this in the middle of your living room with the lights on full and the TV at full blast. You want a quiet and calm place where you know you won’t be interrupted by noise, visitors, or outside forces.

Decide If You’ll Be Wearing Anything

Will you start with clothing? Or are you going to go straight for full nudity? One advantage of starting off with clothing is that you will be able to slowly peel each piece of it off you and describe every movement to your partner. Since this isn’t a video chat, you will have to tell them how your arm swings in front of you when you pull a strap off your shoulder. How your back arches as you reach back to unsnap your own bra. You have to give them the visual they’d get if they were standing right in front of you.

Lay Out Anything You’ll Be Using

If you don’t own any toys, aren’t comfortable using them for something like this, or own toys that won’t work for a solo sesh, you won’t have to do anything for this part. But if you have a toy you want to use, or any other items in mind, set them up wherever you’re going to be. You don’t want to be in the middle of your phone sex date and have to put them on pause because you can’t find something!

Mutually Masturbate

This is a great way to get things started. Grab the toys you previously got ready and start in on yourself. Listening to your partner moan and the sounds that they make while they are enjoying themselves is a great way to turn yourself on and enjoy what you’re doing even more!

Explain What You’re Doing

Tell your partner exactly what you’re doing. Don’t be generic with your terms, either. Tell them exactly how hard you’re pressing with your vibrator or how tight of a grip you have on your penis. Tell them if you’re using just your fingers to penetrate yourself. Tell them what kind of toy you’re using, if that’s what you’re doing. Tell them what color it is and what it looks like. You want to make sure they can imagine it.

Relive A Previous Romp

Bring up a previous time the two of you were together. (If you’ve never been together, you’ll have to either skip this one or try to come up with a sexy scenario together of what you’d like to do to each other!) Explain to your partner something they did that you really enjoyed. Describe to them what it did to your body. Don’t be afraid to let them know that you’re experiencing some of those same feelings just thinking about it. It turns a person on to know that you enjoyed a move so much that just the reminder of it is enough to gear your body up to do it again.

Explore A Fantasy

Tell your partner about something that you’ve always wanted to try in the bedroom. Tell them how you want it to start and ask them to fill in the next part. After they’ve added their piece, you add the next part. Keep going back and forth until both of you are spent. Not only does it get you both incredibly turned on, but it allows both of you to learn a little bit about what the other person really wants in bed.

Don’t Rush It

Phone sex, just like regular sex, should be taken slow. (Now, I don’t condone that every time you’re with your partner it should be slow and romantic. Sometimes it needs to be hot, feisty, animalistic and loud!) But, for this scenario, it needs to be taken slow. Add in elements of tease and suspense. Don’t go all in showing every card you have. You don’t want your partner to lose interest too soon or the fun of the game will be over. Think about it like poker. Hide the best until last and make them work for what they want.

Be You

There is nobody who knows you better than yourself. Only you can be open and honest with the person on the other end of the text conversation. You need to teach them what you want, what you like, and what you need. Tell them these things in your own way. DON’T try to impress them by entering into territory that you either know nothing about or aren’t comfortable being in. Be yourself. Tell them about you. It’s you that they’re choosing to have phone sex with. Don’t give them anyone else.

Add-In A Video

This is ONLY if you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that you can trust the person on the other end of the line. Don’t send them a video if you don’t know how much you can trust them. You don’t want it to end up somewhere it shouldn’t.

Send them a short clip of you playing with your clit, or stroking your penis. Give them a small visual of what you look like when you’re entirely aroused. Maybe a little bit of an audio clip of you saying that it’s because of them you are in that mood!

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Laugh

This is probably some of the most important phone sex advice I can give you. I can honestly say that some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had involved a few giggles for one reason or another. I kneed a guy right in the gut once while changing positions and after I got over the utter horror (it was our first time together!) we giggled a little bit and went on our way. Transitions between positions were a tad slower, but oh man, that just made it even sexier!

It’s human nature to giggle when we’re nervous, and phone sex can cause some to be a bit nervous.

Follow Your Partners Lead

Unless your partner heads into territory that makes you uncomfortable (in which case you should absolutely say so!) follow their lead. If you can tell they’re leaning towards one thing, lean with them. You’ll have to think on the fly a lot during phone sex. You don’t want ten minutes between messages. If they’re trying to get you to give up the goods right away, though, just tease relentlessly. Don’t let them end things too fast!

Ask Questions

This might sound silly but ask your partner questions. Now, please don’t ask them every five minutes if they’re enjoying themselves. If they’re not, they’re likely going to either tell you that it’s just not working, or find a way to steer the conversation in a direction that does. Ask them how they think you feel. Ask them what they’d do with you in a specific moment. Ask them to describe how they feel to you.

Enjoy Yourself!

You have to enjoy what you’re doing. You have to be open, willing, and happy if you’re going to participate in this kind of activity with your partner. If you’re not feeling it, make sure you tell them, otherwise you will come off as uninterested, which can be a total turn off for them. They may be upset and think you’re not into them if you aren’t upfront and let them know you’re just not feeling it. If this is the case, set up a date for another time.

Discuss How It Went When You’re Done

Oh boy. This might be strange, but sit down with your partner when you’re done and discuss how you both think it went when you’re done. (Maybe take a cold shower first…) This way you can talk about what worked, and what didn’t. If you both suspect that it’ll happen again, you can talk about what you’d like to do next time.